As my bestie is nearing the end of her pregnancy, I can’t help but constantly ask, ”so, have you decided on the name yet?”. It’s none of my business really and I know she isn’t going to share until the day that baby arrives (we have a deal – a girl, next weekend, weighing 9 pounds).
Each time I ask about names we’ve talked about how difficult it is to pick a name, it is after-all, with them for life.
It’s made me think about how we handled our childrens names differently. The announcement of it.
With our first child, as soon as we were told it’s a boy, we decided on Mason, straight away. That was it, he was Mason. We loved the name, I think it’s strong enough for a man and cute enough for a child. We spread the word, when we were asked. We were so confident with his name that it didn’t give anyone the chance to say they didn’t like it, because they once knew a Mason that took their crisps at school, everyone was as positive as us about it.
After the word had spread that we were not only having a boy, but we were having a Mason, I got the odd ”but what if he’s not a Mason”. What the fuck does that mean? He’s going to be a baby boy, that’s all we know about him. If we named him based on his personality, then after he was born he would have been named ‘cries a lot’.
Because people knew the name, it made me question our choice. I knew that was the name, since that was the only name we also agreed on. I would find myself asking for other peoples opinion. It seems silly now, because we were so confident in our choice, that it doesn’t matter what other people think. Thankfully everyone said all good things, even if they thought different.
With our second child we didn’t have a clue. From the day we found out it’s a girl we didn’t have a clue about girls names. We couldn’t agree on anything. At first we kept it a secret that we were having a girl, simply because I didn’t want to be questioned about names, reminding me that of the millions of names, we couldn’t agree on just one.
By chance one evening we were talking about people we knew from school who have also started their own families. Then a name came up of someones daughter, Mia. As soon as the name was said it was almost an ah-ha moment, that was it, Mia.
We kept this one a secret, once she was born and the name was announced, that was it, that was her name. I wasn’t worried about what people thought, because no-one knew, it was quite exciting that it’d be kept a surprise. As hard as we try, it’s natural to care what other people think.
Once she arrived and the name was announced people did notice that both of their names began with M. To answer those questions, no, we didn’t plan that. Although, they would be one of my favourite snacks M&M’s. So they’ve been named perfectly.
Keeping a childs’ name between yourselves, is a fun secret to have and stops you from doubting your decision, especially if it’s taken months to decide.