This year was the first year I attended Britmums and I’m hoping it won’t be the last. Blogging has been such a blessing since I started over a year ago now and it’s been a creative space for our family life, food, interiors/crafts and photography. It’s made me realise the passions I have for writing and photography, giving me the opportunity to showcase them. Having a blog has given me another identity from the mother I love to be and it’s because of my role as mum that I ventured into this new journey.
One great thing I’ve discovered from blogging is the community. When you picture a large group of women working alongside each other and being together in a large crowd, naturally you imagine it to be cliquey. Maybe even a little catty. Of course over the years all of the bloggers have made friends and have their go-to girls and guys, but these aren’t closed groups. They’re very much an open crowd for new people to join and it’s such a wonderful thing to be a part of.
Blogging is hard graft, it’s not a job or a hobby you can switch off from. It’s more than just tapping out a post and hitting publish, it’s an all day everyday occurrence. Sometimes you lose the spark to write a new post and you encounter writers block. The pressure from writers block is horrid, it’s a wall you hit, and the harder you try to climb it, the higher it gets. Sometimes taking a step back from the wall, taking a break from writing, fills you with endless ideas. A week free from writing can mean dreadful stats, but also lead to a month of ideas for posts to write.
Other bloggers understand this and many are a fountain of knowledge, filled with tips to make your blogging experience a little easier. You’d think people would keep their words of wisdom and blogging secrets close to their chest, but everyone I’ve met so far has been nothing but encouraging, emptying their trade-secrets so somebody else can flourish. I never realised I’d feel so a part of something when I hit ‘publish’ on my very first, and a little rubbish, blog post.
This was my outfit on Saturday, I dared to be orange. Excuse the little pile of washing waiting to be put back in the drawer (it’s still waiting).
After I’d booked my ticket for Britmums I was anxious to be attending an event filled with people I’d never met. I didn’t know what to expect from the day and I was nervous I’d be teetering around the venue alone. Glaring at other people showing them an odd, but welcoming smile. There were a couple of times I smiled at another blogger, probably looking a tad creepy, or a lot creepy because we were still at the tube station at this point and nobody knew anyone here. But in my defense you could just tell they were bloggers on their way to Britmums. At least the creepy grin helped us to mingle.
I had arranged to meet a few people in the morning, to make entering the venue a little less daunting. Although now I’ve been, I think even if I had attended alone the friendly vibe would have made it so much easier. Saying that, I’m pleased I din’t attend alone and I hope I will always have these girlies to meet in the morning.
The gorgeous Aby said she’d meet me first thing. I’ve met so many wonderfully kind people and Aby is certainly one of them. Thanks to her, Amy, Katy and to be honest, everybody, I felt so welcome and so at ease with the whole day. I met everyone I had hoped to meet and many more people. You are all so uplifting and inspiring, a truly fabulous community to be a part of, I know I keep saying it.
There are two people I have left out of the above list, because they’re terrible people. No, I’m just kidding, they’re quite the opposite. In fact, they were my buddies throughout the entire day. These were Kate and Clare. Two lovely women who were in the same boat as me, having never attended Britmums before we all had the same mixture of excitement and nerves. Thank you girls, I’m so pleased we got together. It was like seeing old friends, we really clicked. Like Kate said, chatting to bloggers is a little like online dating. You kind of know each other, but you never know what to expect when you meet.
I’m now looking forward to a lunch date soon. Perhaps without kiddies and a little wine? But our littles are all the same age so they’d love having a little play.
We visited various sessions throughout the day and learnt a few bits to help us change the way we prepare and share a post. A few things I knew already from a couple of courses I’ve recently completed, although it’s nice to hear it again, just to be sure!
The biggest thing I took away from Britmums was about how to blog. Basically, there is no ‘how to’ blog. You blog for you and I think sometimes we get a little lost in “but what works, what’s the secret to success”. I have been getting all hell bent on creating schedules for my blog, keeping it predictable yet interesting and doing this made me lose the passion to write. I enjoy sitting and writing, about our life, about a particular topic and I love creating inspirational interior posts.
There are no rules in blogging ultimately your blog is yours and my blog is mine, we can write as much or as little as we fancy and we can write about anything at all that we’re passionate about.
I remember asking silly questions when I first started blogging, although they seemed silly at the time, they felt extremely important back then. I wondered how often I should post, once a day? Twice a week? The answer is whenever I have something to write about. Something that will entertain anyone who reads and something I enjoy writing about and taking pictures for.
I’m really not showcasing my photography skills at all here, but I thought this was sweet.
I’ve always said I won’t write about anything that isn’t interesting to read, while I will still do this, I’ve realised ‘interesting’ is relative to who reads it. Someone may love reading my Flawless Friday posts, to see what has made us happy during the week and to hear what we’ve been getting up to, while others may think it’s really boring. Yet I know in years to come I will bypass all my other posts and read those, as they’re important memories of our lives and they’re flawless memories.
Britmums has left me feeling incredibly inspired to write, not write for the sake of it but write because it’s my passion and to take pictures because it’s a new found love of mine. I will no longer be following a strict schedule and pressuring myself to write something, anything. I will still be adding recipes when I’ve created a masterpiece, I will also be adding little craft tutorials and interiors posts when I do them (finding the time is tricky with toddlers, especially when crafting, they always want to destroy or lick it). Ultimately this blog is about our family life, our travels and honest thoughts. There’ll still be a little sarcasm and humour, because that’s naturally how I talk, but I suppose it’ll be a little more like a thoughts diary. One that’s relatable to many mums venturing through motherhood.
So a huge thank you to the wonderful bloggers that inspire me everyday with their posts and who are some of the loveliest people I have ever met and a massive thank you to Britmums, you’ve reignited my passion to write and made me realise my blog is mine, I will keep things simple, honest and personal to us.
Just enjoying a picnic breakfast this morning with the crepes from the #Britmums goodie bag. Such a fab day yesterday. The kiddies enjoyed a day with their daddy, which meant they got totally spoilt all day. I learnt a lot and met so many brill bloggers, I feel inspired by the speeches and so pleased to be part of such a wonderful community 💛