Less than four weeks ago the entire family was struck down with flu. It was horrendous. Thankfully I wasn’t as bad as my children. Is that OK to say? Had I of been as poorly, my coping skills would have been far worse than they were, children need a healthy mum when they’re ill. A mum that’s healthy enough to be what they need.
Four weeks later myself and my son have been struck down with another bastard
cold. This time, I’ve gone downhill faster and further than him.
From late yesterday afternoon I’ve been stuck to the chair, drifting in and out of sleep, aches all over, with a baby that’s using me as her trampoline.
I’ve also cried, a lot.
See, while Mr Firstooth is here, he takes over, he earns a tremendous amount of brownie points. But it was Sunday yesterday and that means he’s at work today, all day. Leaving me in a rough state to parent two children who treat sitting down as a crime.
All that keeps running through my mind is ‘I can’t do this’, how can I be what my children need and want, how the chuff do I do that if getting up and moving around is incredibly painful?
So, I Googled the question, minus the ‘chuff’. I see that many other mums have asked the question in forums, not surprising since parents aren’t exempt from illness. Many other mums have replied ”just get on with it”.
Well yes, we will just have to get on with it, what the fuck else do we do? But the mums were looking for support, ideas to entertain the children, tips on making the day a little smoother. Thank you for the patronising response (probably from Supermum) about sucking it up, keep calm and carry on and all that. Yes, we will also have to suck it up. Dose up on paracetamol and take on the day as positively as possible. There’s no getting away from the blunt truth.
This doesn’t change the fear mums have about the day to come, the worry it’ll all be far too much and their partners will arrive home to us in a blubbering mess.
So for all the mums that needed a little support, like me, just cry, let it out. Don’t you feel a little better after a good cry? You’re allowed to feel sorry for yourself.
Use the tv as your second parent for the day, no-one’s judging. Toast or fishfingers are perfectly acceptable for lunch, you need quick and easy. Today I didn’t bother with the fancy chicken noodle soup or pizza quesidilla, we had noodles, just noodles. As snacks I chopped up a mass amount of fruit and they were happy with that, I was happy with the ease of it all. If you can bribe your children into naps and sleep yourself, make the most of it. If you can’t, then reading a book or playing with lego is an excuse to just sit.
I’ve been dreading the day ahead, wishing I’d have a second pair of hands on board. But I’m not that lucky and all things considered, it will only be a few days and each day gets easier, doesn’t it? Also there’s the saying ‘the more you do, the more you can do’.
So, today I’ve had to suck it up and get on with it. In fairness to my children, they’ve been, dare I say, easy. Other than the toddler complaining he’s cold, but refusing to get dressed, they’ve been almost sympathetic, God love them.
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