Crying At The Thought Of Being Ill And Parenting

Less than four weeks ago the entire family was struck down with flu. It was horrendous. Thankfully I wasn’t as bad as my children. Is that OK to say? Had I of been as poorly, my coping skills would have been far worse than they were, children need a healthy mum when they’re ill. A mum that’s healthy enough to be what they need.

Four weeks later myself and my son have been struck down with another bastard

cold. This time, I’ve gone downhill faster and further than him.

From late yesterday afternoon I’ve been stuck to the chair, drifting in and out of sleep, aches all over, with a baby that’s using me as her trampoline.

I’ve also cried, a lot.

See, while Mr Firstooth is here, he takes over, he earns a tremendous amount of brownie points. But it was Sunday yesterday and that means he’s at work today, all day. Leaving me in a rough state to parent two children who treat sitting down as a crime.

All that keeps running through my mind is ‘I can’t do this’, how can I be what my children need and want, how the chuff do I do that if getting up and moving around is incredibly painful?

So, I Googled the question, minus the ‘chuff’. I see that many other mums have asked the question in forums, not surprising since parents aren’t exempt from illness. Many other mums have replied ”just get on with it”.

Well yes, we will just have to get on with it, what the fuck else do we do? But the mums were looking for support, ideas to entertain the children, tips on making the day a little smoother. Thank you for the patronising response (probably from Supermum) about sucking it up, keep calm and carry on and all that. Yes, we will also have to suck it up. Dose up on paracetamol and take on the day as positively as possible. There’s no getting away from the blunt truth.

This doesn’t change the fear mums have about the day to come, the worry it’ll all be far too much and their partners will arrive home to us in a blubbering mess.

So for all the mums that needed a little support, like me, just cry, let it out. Don’t you feel a little better after a good cry? You’re allowed to feel sorry for yourself.

Use the tv as your second parent for the day, no-one’s judging. Toast or fishfingers are perfectly acceptable for lunch, you need quick and easy. Today I didn’t bother with the fancy chicken noodle soup or pizza quesidilla, we had noodles, just noodles. As snacks I chopped up a mass amount of fruit and they were happy with that, I was happy with the ease of it all. If you can bribe your children into naps and sleep yourself, make the most of it. If you can’t, then reading a book or playing with lego is an excuse to just sit.

I’ve been dreading the day ahead, wishing I’d have a second pair of hands on board. But I’m not that lucky and all things considered, it will only be a few days and each day gets easier, doesn’t it? Also there’s the saying ‘the more you do, the more you can do’.

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So, today I’ve had to suck it up and get on with it. In fairness to my children, they’ve been, dare I say, easy. Other than the toddler complaining he’s cold, but refusing to get dressed, they’ve been almost sympathetic, God love them.

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13 Comments

  1. December 15, 2015 / 7:35 am

    Being ill with children absolutely sucks – like you, I always cry when I am ill (sometimes it’s not until I cry that I allow myself to admit that I am ill). You did great – I hope you are feeling better now X #TwinklyTuesday

  2. December 15, 2015 / 10:18 am

    Oh being ill with children is so hard – it’s true that you just have to “suck it up” and get on with it, but a little empathy and support goes a long way to helping with that. I find the TV is an absolutely godsend on those kind of days and definitely agree with easy dinners and snacks – anything that gets you through the day. Hope you are all feeling much better soon #twinklytuesday

  3. December 15, 2015 / 1:47 pm

    Ah hugs it’s so bloody hard when you are ill isn’t it? Harder even than normal and yes while you do have to such it up j think you’re allowed to take it a bit easy and have a good moan too!! Xx

  4. December 15, 2015 / 3:17 pm

    I look back and laugh but when I had flu it was one of the hardest days I’ve had with the little one. I couldn’t keep anything down, not even water. In the end I had to have snacks laid out and just put the telly on and wrapped my arm around him in case I fell asleep. I lasted until early evening and then had to text my husband and force him to come home from work, thank goodness I had that option!

  5. December 16, 2015 / 9:32 pm

    Sometimes a good cry is just the thing. Sometimes you know you want to cry but just can’t so when that happens I get out a soppy dvd and sob away, then MOH comes in and wonders what’s wrong with the world!! Hope you are all healthy in time for Christmas #sharethejoy

  6. December 18, 2015 / 9:30 am

    Oh dear! I hope you’re feeling better now – I hate the fact we’re not allowed to be ill! #effitfriday

    • firstooth
      December 18, 2015 / 11:20 am

      My OH was ill yesterday and he made sure I was aware of it! But I couldn’t sulk and feel sorry for myself!

    • firstooth
      December 18, 2015 / 4:52 pm

      Thank you! Just the Mr to get well now and hopefully that’s us done for colds this year!

  7. December 18, 2015 / 6:29 pm

    Supermum never gets ill. Her relentless regime of organic fruit and home grown veg, combined with early nights and first thing pilates keeps her in tip top shape… 😉 For the rest of us we just struggle through the day with the help of the TV babysitter and bags of crisps. x #effitfriday

    • firstooth
      December 18, 2015 / 7:09 pm

      And it’s bloody horrendous! X

  8. December 18, 2015 / 8:42 pm

    I’m so sorry everyone has been sick, but when Mom’s sick…it’s the worst! Especially is your children are little. Hope everyone stays well. #TwinklyTuesday

  9. December 19, 2015 / 7:42 am

    It is SO hard looking after little ones when you’re feeling poorly yourself. Some days you just have to get through it with as little collateral damage as possible! So sorry you’ve all been poorly and hope you’re feeling better by the time Santa arrives. Thanks for linking up at #sharetthejoy x *sprinkles happiness*

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