Determined to Keep a Promise

I like to think I’m a fairly determined mum. When I promise something to my children I will do everything in my power to make it happen. I promise a Fireman Sam truck and I will deliver, by the skin of my teeth. I promise a trip to the farm or that we’ll go for a walk in the woods, we will do it. Toddlers never forget and I never want them to feel they have to remind me of anything. They will remind me anyway, because they’re young, but you see what I mean.

Today I’d promised we’d go to the beach. I gave them the option of which beach and what time we’d go there. They where confused when I was naming the beaches, he gave me a puzzled expression and said “just beach, my wants to go beach”.

On the drive down there, my sweet little boy kept yelling about the beach with my sweet girl squealing beside him. When you’re about to please your children and have an outing which has a high chance of not turning to rubbish, you feel a little smug inside, and your heart is happy. We sang and bopped with huge smiles on our faces as we drove up the the tiny carpark on the beach.

There were dozens of parasailers out at sea. It was like looking at a length of colourful flowers above the ocean. In my head I was high-fiving myself thinking “yes, what’s better than a trip to the beach? A trip to the beach to watch people parasailing”. My kids are into things like that, aren’t yours?

We rolled up slowly to the carpark and it looked a little more full than usual. It didn’t just look full, it was full. All these people who were parasailing out at sea needed somewhere to park, duh.

I hated them all instantly.

I hope they only catch a boring breeze and not the ideal gust of wind.

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There’s another beach a little further up. I know that sounds strange. Because obviously the beach stretches the entire coastline, but I needed somewhere convenient to ditch the car. Which was a little further up.

Yet again there was nowhere to park. But I was determined. I looked at their faces in the rear-view mirror and said “we’ll come back tomorrow”. My boy especially, looked deflated. I was getting a little desperate. We wouldn’t come back tomorrow, we will plant our toes firmly on those painful pebbles, no matter what.

So I abandoned the car. I just stopped the car and got out, not in a parking space, nowhere convenient, but I didn’t care. Ruthless.

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I pulled the baby beasts out of the car and set them on the ground, they ran like dogs let off their lead. While I was juggling car keys, bags, hats and other parenting paraphernalia, they were half-way down the beach. It would have been all well and good me strolling behind them if I didn’t have to stop every second to shake pebbles out of my shoes. I looked at my trainers before we left and I thought “no, far too casual”, but they weren’t to casual when my dolly shoes were sucking in half the beach and my toes were cosying up to tiny rocks.

We hobbled down to the beach and inside I was so glad I didn’t fob them off with an excuse to go home. Their happiness means everything to me and being outside is good for your soul. Don’t you feel incredibly relaxed sat on the beach, listening to the waves, with only your children giggling beside you?

Don’t get me wrong, the kids laughed proudly at their farts and threw pebbles at eachother, fun turned into strops and the boy laid in protest because we had to leave, but the determination paid off.

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“Whachu doing?”

“My not going home”

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He stayed there all night

On the way home I did have to shake the boys leg and randomly shriek his name to stop him from falling asleep. A few hours at the beach wears you out, unfortunately I was also determined not to let him sleep. There’ll be no bedtime battles in our house tonight.


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30 Comments

  1. Nige
    May 14, 2016 / 6:39 am

    Well done it’s so important to children to keep promises
    Fab pictures look like you had a great time #anything goes

    • firstooth
      May 14, 2016 / 7:25 am

      Thanks Nige

  2. May 14, 2016 / 3:43 pm

    It’s so important to try and keep promises to children. When I tell my son we are going to the park I always do if the weather is good enough.

    • firstooth
      May 14, 2016 / 4:13 pm

      Definitely, we don’t want to let our babies down

  3. May 14, 2016 / 5:15 pm

    Oh that sounds like a lovely day, love the way you just dumped the car x

  4. May 14, 2016 / 7:21 pm

    Keeping promises is so important, the good ones and the threats! What a lovely play at the beach and I love the “My not go home” sounds like a perfect trip out and lots of happiness made, like you I fin the beach relaxing and the perfect place to sit back and watch my kids have fun. thank you for sharing with me on #CountryKids

    • firstooth
      May 15, 2016 / 6:45 am

      It’s much more relaxing than a trip to the park, especially when it’s just us on the beach. Thanks for hosting! X

  5. May 15, 2016 / 2:45 am

    I don’t want to be the one to break it to you but even as they get older they still remember everything you said you would do! Sometimes things get brought up from months earlier lol

    • firstooth
      May 15, 2016 / 6:53 am

      Maybe I’ll keep tight lipped until the last minute lol

  6. May 15, 2016 / 1:59 pm

    Something so simple, yet so important I think. Never make a promise you can’t keep x

  7. May 15, 2016 / 4:41 pm

    I just love how determined you were that you would keep your promise to the kids, my parents were (and are) like that too and I hope I will be the same to my own future kids

  8. May 15, 2016 / 6:35 pm

    You are right! Toddlers NEVER forget 😉 My mummy would have done the same as you. A promise is a promise and hell hath no fury like a mother on a mission. Looks like you guys had a lovely day 🙂

  9. May 15, 2016 / 10:26 pm

    Well done you, there is nothing worse than having to let your kids down after promising them something. I am slowly learning to keep our days out as surprises to save on the disappointment if something goes wrong. Looks like you had a great day though 🙂

  10. Fran Back With A Bump
    May 16, 2016 / 6:03 am

    Glad you found somewhere to dump the car as that could have caused a mini meltdown. Looks a lovely beach. Such nice photos #marvmondays

  11. May 16, 2016 / 11:24 am

    I so love your photos! They are so bright and clear!

    I think that its nice to keep promises to kids as they will have faith in your words. And hats off for keeping your no matter what it takes.

    #countrykids

  12. May 16, 2016 / 12:49 pm

    Keeping promises is so important isn’t it and I’ve learnt to be VERY careful what I promise and sometimes leave things to the last minute to tell them just to make sure I can follow through on it. So glad you got to go to the beach and hope you didn’t get into trouble for abandoning your car! Thanks for linking up again at #sharethejoy – love reading your posts each week Lizzie 🙂

    • firstooth
      May 17, 2016 / 5:23 pm

      We do the same, it horrible to disappoint them isn’t it. The car was safe and sound sound thankfully! Thanks for hosting and that’s really made me smile thank you 🙂

  13. May 16, 2016 / 9:12 pm

    It’s amazing that you keep promises. I have found many people that give no worth to a promise made to a toddler, and it breaks my heart, I think promises are the most important things ever!

  14. May 17, 2016 / 3:27 am

    Pickle does not forget a single thing I have promised. You can’t beat a trip to the beach, love your photos. Us Mammas are fab aren’t we! Kaz x

    • firstooth
      May 17, 2016 / 5:22 pm

      We are!! X

  15. May 17, 2016 / 8:22 am

    I really think all mums try there hardest to put their child’s happiness first. It’s something that has to come first. I try not to promise things I feel I may be unable to keep to but sadly kids just hear the positives and not always the fact something may not happen

    • firstooth
      May 17, 2016 / 5:21 pm

      Yes we keep quiet about big things… just in case. But once they’ve been made a promise then us mum’s do our hardest to deliver

  16. May 17, 2016 / 8:29 am

    I love the beach and I prefer it this time of year when you can park close by – we rarely go in the summer as like you we find it packed. I do the leg shake thing too although he normally falls asleep anyway

    • firstooth
      May 17, 2016 / 5:20 pm

      Mine fell asleep today no matter how hard I jiggled! Yes the summer tends to be too busy even now with the nicer weather the weekends attract half the country to the beach

  17. May 17, 2016 / 6:19 pm

    Haha! The number of times I have sung very loudly and crazily in the car to avoid post-activity snoozing! I’ve given up now, but then they are older so a sleep in the day is a blissful rest! Keeping promises is important, they have good memories these small people and it shows them how much you value them. Xx #sharethejoy

  18. May 20, 2016 / 9:12 pm

    Brilliant! I love how you abandoned the car as this is something I would do. I promised the park the other day and we drove around 5, yes 5, car parks until we found a space. Parenthood gives us determination. Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky x

  19. May 21, 2016 / 9:33 am

    Sounds like your determination paid off and you had a wonderful day at the beach! I don’t know about you, but even I feel deflated when a promised activity falls through because of unforeseen circumstances – as an adult you “get” that things happen sometimes, but it still doesn’t take that horrid feeling of loss away when you can’t do what you had been dreaming of, right?! #sharethejoy

  20. May 22, 2016 / 8:57 am

    The things we do as parents to put smiles on our little ones faces! Glad you guys made it to the beach, your determination was definitely something else. But as the pictures show, it was totally worth it. I would have done the same 😉 Hope you had a big slice of cake and tea along with your virtual pat on the back when you got home! Thanks for sharing this on #MarvMondays. Emily

    • firstooth
      May 27, 2016 / 11:26 am

      I sure did! Thanks for hosting hun x

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