This is a post I’ve been looking forward to publishing. It’s one that everyone, I mean, ev-er-y-one can relate to. I’ve gasped and laughed at the responses I’ve received, about what peoples’ family have done to cross the lines. So many fantastic bloggers joined me on this one and a few have asked to join in anonymously with their juicy stories, so to not upset the apple cart.
Sometimes there are members of your family that go a little crazy once you’ve birthed your baby. Offer unsolicited opinions and parent your parenting. As a parent, it’s your right to go slightly crazy due to the sleepless nights and toddler tantrums, but your family and friends sometimes like to join in with their own odd antics.
Are you holding your drink of choice in your hand? You’ll need one to spit out as you scroll down the page…
Hannah from Hi Baby Blog
I get a lot of comments of the outlaws on how I raise L. The most common thing is that when they see something as a problem (how I choose to wean, the routine I implement, Luisa not being allowed processed meat, her clothes) they speak to Luisa about it not me. For example ‘oh hello baby girl wouldn’t it be so great if you could have a lovely sausage? Wouldn’t you like a nice Hot-Dog?’ Or ‘oh no pretty girl you’re wearing boys clothes – who did that to you?’
Kate from Refined Prose
My MIL asked me if she could sit outside the room while I was in labour so she could be the first to hold the baby, in front of me and my husband.
My MIL moved in for two weeks, uninvited, and I came close to breaking a plate over her head every day. She rearranged my kitchen and claimed she was there to ‘help’, when it was still me who cooked her meals, tidied up and cooed over my new baby. While she watched TV creating a huge bum print in our sofa.
Cat from Rock and Roll Pussycat
I could write a book. I no longer speak to my inlaws thank God. One thing sticks in my mind was my MIL trying to feed my 11 week old baby gravy from a teaspoon, not sure whether I’d deem it funny or irritating, probably just bloody idiotic
Emilie from Not Just Cake
My In Laws drive me crazy trying to get my son to pose for photos! They practically restrain him and repeat his name over and over again to get him to look up. Then if he cries they say “What’s wrong with him?”
Before we started weaning my FIL would says “Oh Is your mummy eating and youre not getting any? You must be starving!”… No he had an 8oz bottle an hour ago and doesn’t eat solids yet…
Maria from Suburban-Mum
My MIL (god bless her) recently gave my eldest son FIVE chunks of toblerone for his pudding. I almost had a heart attack when she told me!
She also started trying to explain where and what hell was once too before I had to step in and tell her that we don’t talk about things like that!
She’s lovely really and I wouldn’t know what we’d do without her helping us out twice a week but sometimes she just doesn’t think!
My parents have a clear favourite. Whether they realise it or not, they certainly make it obvious that the first-born is the apple of their eye. The first born is definitely not my child.
Laura from Max and Mummy
my MIL was waiting outside the room when I gave birth, stormed in when Max was born and went “I love you more than I love my own children”.
Dave from The DADventurer
My MIL constantly compares our kid to her other two grandkids – that’s fine, but L is 21 months old and the other two grandkids are 11 and 6! So when we say something like “Oh, L is happy to try any food”, she’ll always reply with “Oh yes, so are X and Y”. Well I’d bloody well hope so considering they’re so much older. Irritating!
Jessica from Beauties and the Bibs
I must be one of the only ones that has really supportive mother in law who is there for me no matter what as well as my parents . Although my mom cannot understand that things have changed since having both me and my brother. When changing her nappy I don’t put cream on her every time unless she needs it . My mom insists that she needs it each nappy change. Which is really annoying I don’t want to put things on her precious skin unless I have to.
Holly from Little Pickles Mom
My MIL is definitely an odd one… She doesn’t seem to have grasped that times have moved on since she had her children. I think she thinks I must be stupid or something.
When I told her the MLU I’m planning to give birth in only keep you in for 6-8 hours afterwards should everything be normal, she laughed at me and said ‘don’t be silly, dear. They keep you in for at least a week.’
‘They don’t even keep you in for a week if you’ve had a c-section.’ I replied.
‘No, it’s two weeks for a c-section.’
Grrrrrrr. Yes, you’ve had three children and so far I haven’t birthed any but that DOESNT mean you know everything about modern day labour and the NHS. You may be very well versed in childbirth in the 80s but this is 2016, love. Things have moved on. And if you call me PLUM PUDDING or TUBBY one more time… I’ll unleash some serious preggo rage.
I know the passive aggressive ‘Mummy-knows-nothing, Nanny-knows-everything’ will only get worse when baby is here.
Tayla from Motherhood The Real Deal
My MIL literally started every sentence with the word “This is better” or “That is better” for the first year. I could have firmly poked her i the eye every time she uttered it!
Rachel at Parenthood Highs and Lows
My nan is a bloody nightmare. Two days after giving birth she told me I was still too fat. She told me feeding on demand would spoil them, told me off for breastfeeding in a restaurant because there was an older gentlemen on the next table. She was horrified that I am going away for an entire weekend to Britmums because dads shouldn’t look after their children at night (WTAF?) and that’s just the ones I can think of off the top of my head. However, she spoils my three rotten. My mum and mother in law are brilliant though.
When my little girl was about 2, I was chatting to my friend about how meal times were a nightmare as she was so fussy. My friend, who wasn’t a mum yet at the time says “Have you taken her to be wormed yet? If not, that could be why?” She’s now a mum and I really hope she doesn’t take her baby to the doctors to be wormed.
Hannah from Hannah Spannah
Before she was my MIL, the first time they came to eat at my house that my ex husband moved into, was for a Bbq. They brought their own meat. Not enough to share, just two burgers and two sausages. She wouldn’t eat any foreign food such as my pasta salad, rice etc so I made jacket potatoes and some roasted veg but she ate nothing but her own meat. FIL at least ate some of the food I prepared. She answered all the mr and Mrs questions that I was being asked on my hen do as ‘she knew her son’. When I thanked her for coming and it had been so nice, she told me I was lying. (I was but do you really say that as a polite response to a thanks for coming?!!). My ex mother in law told me ‘breastfeeding was disgusting’ and my ex father in law told me not to feed for too long or I’ll ruin my boobs. She constantly told me to ‘just be done with it and give him a bottle’. They didn’t buy my son a single gift from the day he was born to the day my ex husband left at 7 months. It’s not about the gifts I just found it weird that they didn’t want to buy something their only grandchild within 250 miles. That they didn’t spot something in a shop and think they’d buy it just because. Not even a vest or a bib let alone a toy.