This weeks guest post comes from Jess who blogs over at www.beautiesandthebibs.co.uk about life and motherhood with her beautiful daughter Ava, grab a tea and pop over. Once you’ve finished reading her post, of course.
This post is an honest one, which I’m sure all new mum/moms can relate to. Her message is one which we should all remember (although sometimes easily forgotten) we’re all doing a great job, trust our instincts as mum knows best.
Over to Jess
Being A New Mom
When I knew I was pregnant and I started telling people my good news, everyone already had their expectations of what kind of parent I was going to be. As I have worked in nurseries now for many years and becoming the manager at the nursery I am currently employed at people just think it’s going to be second nature to me. The truth is I have never been a mom before it’s a completely new world to me. Of course there were things that I knew that maybe some new moms wouldn’t have known things like nappy changing and bottle preparation, but never before had I done night feeds or had a baby all day that is my sole responsibility.
I have made some mistakes along the way, I mean, I am only human and I’m sure I will make some more. One of the first things we did was let Ava sleep on us when she was little, so now she loves a cuddle to go to sleep. This I know is not a bad thing but was a thing I said to myself we weren’t going to do. We have started to try and get her to go to sleep without big cuddles but she just gets upset. We all know being a parent you will do anything for an easy life and if this means giving her a cuddle to go to sleep then so be it (I do actually really enjoy these sleepy cuddles).
I think as well it is hard being a new parent as you get so many different peoples’ opinions thrown at you about how you should be doing things, you don’t know which one to listen to and they all get so jumbled up and confusing. In the end, we stopped listening to everyone, as much as we love to hear their opinions we just do things the way we want to do them, what works for us. After all, we are her parents and we are the ones that spend the majority of the time with her.
The one biggest thing we have had to deal with is introducing our dog Kya to our new arrival. Our dog is the world most energetic dog ever, I mean you can take her for a long walk and she will get back and run around the garden like a mad head. All we got from people is don’t leave them in the room together, you need eyes in the back of your head with a baby and a dog! I think some people forget I’m not stupid, I know what dogs can do to children if unattended. Honestly Kya and Ava are the world’s best friends. Ava watches her all day long and just laughs at her. Kya gets really concerned when Ava cry’s and likes to check she is ok! Ava being born has been so good for Kya we can now have people around the house and she doesn’t get to excited when they come and wee everywhere!
My word of advice for all new parents out there is just do what makes your little family happy and content. Yes, you will make mistakes along the way, but all parents do and you won’t be the first parent to make a mistake and you defiantly won’t be the last. You are all doing a fantastic job.