There has been a scientific study to prove that gossip between friends strengthens relationships and makes us more aware of our actions, did you know that? The fear of gossip supposedly keeps us in check, and prevents ourselves being the subject of a good gossip. So, apparently gossiping is a social skill and not a character flaw.
If you’re like me, you’ll be open about your flaws and will make fun of yourself, which makes gossiping about you a bit tricky (not impossible, weird people will judge your crusty jeans – used during breakfast as hand towel).
Well pour me some wine and let’s talk!
If we’re honest, whether we agree with gossiping or not, we all do it. We ALL do it. You do it with your close friends, I do with mine, even our parents and grandparents have probably been known to dabble in a little “you didn’t hear this from me but…”. So isn’t it great that it’s good to gossip.
Think about the last time you said “I probably shouldn’t say this but…“. Don’t feel guilty for this if you’re sharing info or swapping stories with your best and most trusted friend. It’s good to get things off your chest and just generally chat, it gives me a bit more dimension in my conversation topics, other than being all baby – related. Because let’s face it, when you become a parent you could revert every conversation back to your children. Lets try it…
“Hiya, sorry I’m late the traffic was terrible”
“It’s ok I’m always late. Literally, never on-time. Because of my children”.
See, any conversation.
This study also said that apparently those who didn’t gossip, were more likely to become isolated. Now I’m not too sure about that, because people who gossip incorrectly are just as likely to become isolated.
By ‘incorrectly’ I mean maliciously. Spreading the deepest darkest secrets of people, just for the sake of a conversation. Judging someone. That’s not nice. Any kind of cruel gossip isn’t good for anyone, especially your soul.
I know you’re wondering ‘well what’s good gossip then’, the good gossip is discussing the juicy stuff. You know the things that make us gasp, but smile as we chat about it, we’re just talking about it because we’re nosey. Not because we’re judging. Ok, we’re judging a bit, but we’re mostly just nosey.
“She kissed who?”
“You fell out with who? Why?”
“OMG, what happened”
That’s probably my biggest character flaw is how nosey I am. If you mention something, I want to know full details. If you ask something, I will dig deep to find everything out. I like to know everything, but don’t you?
There you have it, a good gossip among friends and family is good for us. That’s all the excuse I need.
So, what’s the goss? What’s been going on?