Gossip Is Good For You, Did You Know?

There has been a scientific study to prove that gossip between friends strengthens relationships and makes us more aware of our actions, did you know that? The fear of gossip supposedly keeps us in check, and prevents ourselves being the subject of a good gossip. So, apparently gossiping is a social skill and not a character flaw.

If you’re like me, you’ll be open about your flaws and will make fun of yourself, which makes gossiping about you a bit tricky (not impossible, weird people will judge your crusty jeans – used during breakfast as hand towel).

Well pour me some wine and let’s talk!

If we’re honest, whether we agree with gossiping or not, we all do it. We ALL do it. You do it with your close friends, I do with mine, even our parents and grandparents have probably been known to dabble in a little “you didn’t hear this from me but…”. So isn’t it great that it’s good to gossip.

Think about the last time you said “I probably shouldn’t say this but…“. Don’t feel guilty for this if you’re sharing info or swapping stories with your best and most trusted friend. It’s good to get things off your chest and just generally chat, it gives me a bit more dimension in my conversation topics, other than being all baby – related. Because let’s face it, when you become a parent you could revert every conversation back to your children. Lets try it…

“Hiya, sorry I’m late the traffic was terrible”
“It’s ok I’m always late. Literally, never on-time. Because of my children”.

See, any conversation.

This study also said that apparently those who didn’t gossip, were more likely to become isolated. Now I’m not too sure about that, because people who gossip incorrectly are just as likely to become isolated.

By ‘incorrectly’ I mean maliciously. Spreading the deepest darkest secrets of people, just for the sake of a conversation. Judging someone. That’s not nice. Any kind of cruel gossip isn’t good for anyone, especially your soul.

I know you’re wondering ‘well what’s good gossip then’, the good gossip is discussing the juicy stuff. You know the things that make us gasp, but smile as we chat about it, we’re just talking about it because we’re nosey. Not because we’re judging. Ok, we’re judging a bit, but we’re mostly just nosey.

“She kissed who?”
“You fell out with who? Why?”
“OMG, what happened”

That’s probably my biggest character flaw is how nosey I am. If you mention something, I want to know full details. If you ask something, I will dig deep to find everything out. I like to know everything, but don’t you?

There you have it, a good gossip among friends and family is good for us. That’s all the excuse I need.

So, what’s the goss? What’s been going on?


 

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28 Comments

  1. March 26, 2016 / 9:34 am

    Love this post! I’m off to tell my friend our gossiping is good for us ๐Ÿ™‚ #justanotherlinky

  2. March 26, 2016 / 9:41 am

    Good to know I’ve got an excuse to do it now! Seriously, I think gossip is good fun as long as it’s not malicious. What could be more interesting than talking about other people? #justanotherlinky

  3. March 26, 2016 / 1:13 pm

    I think the definition of the word gossip makes a difference here. Talking about what is going on with other people is very different to me than talking poorly about someone just to make conversation and yourself feel better.

  4. March 28, 2016 / 7:17 am

    I always feel better after a little girlfriend gossip! Glad science is finally noticing! ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. March 28, 2016 / 8:29 am

    I am so pleased to read this! I do love a good gossip (never nasty though)! I also make so much fun of my foibles that I hope people find it harder to gossip about me! #bigpinklink

  6. March 28, 2016 / 2:45 pm

    Lizzie, I love this post! Yes, I do gossip, too, but I make a concerted effort (not that I don’t fail sometimes) not to maliciously or judgmentally gossip. To be honest, I have regular “gossip sessions” with my Dad. LOL! I really appreciated your point that those who gossip incorrectly are just as likely to be isolated. I think this study and your post hit on something…the good-natured kind of gossiping, or recounting, that we use it as a bonding mechanism. I suspect the study is not nearly as funny as you are, though. Love your point of view! Thank you for sharing with #sharethejoylinky!

  7. March 28, 2016 / 4:16 pm

    A little gossip is partly how we build friendships and trust, so long as no one is hurt and it isn’t nasty it’s not all bad. #sharetheJoy

  8. March 28, 2016 / 6:37 pm

    I have been working on my gossiping big time!! I used to be terrible, not malicious, & nearly always about myself, but I’ve found not drinking often has helped loads! I may have to take it up again if it’s good for you!! ๐Ÿ˜€ thanks for linking up with us! #bigpinklink

  9. March 29, 2016 / 8:02 am

    I am to thick for gossip – I always forget things people have told me or get them muddled up with stuff I saw on tv ๐Ÿ™‚ Don’t get me wrong, I indulge, but nervously!
    x Alice
    #sharethejoy

    • March 29, 2016 / 7:29 pm

      Oh my gosh, I’m not the only one who mistakes TV events for real life ones? I don’t feel like such a dork now. Haha!

    • firstooth
      April 4, 2016 / 9:10 am

      Haha that really made me laugh! You’d be a perfect friend

  10. March 29, 2016 / 7:20 pm

    Well who’d have thought it? It’s interesting, isn’t it, because as you say we all do it, and yet whenever people talk about gossiping it is always with that hint of shame because we thought of the malicious, judgemental side rather than the fact that a good bit of gossip between friends doesn’t need to be hurtful or harmful but can actually be fun, especially when it involves ourselves! #sharethejoy

    • firstooth
      March 29, 2016 / 9:05 pm

      Exactly! I do love a good gossip, which I see it as more of a catch up

  11. March 29, 2016 / 7:29 pm

    I was a little hesitant reading the title, to be honest, but I love your distinction between good/bad gossip and how it helps to build relationships. When I’m around someone who constantly negatively gossips, I can’t help but wonder what they say about me behind my back, but I think it absolutely depends on your relationship to the other person and the nature of the gossip, like you said.
    And no worries: I’m nosey too. I love knowing things about people, if for no other reason than to realize, woah! They have as vivid and complex a life as I do. It’s always kind of a weird thought.

    • firstooth
      March 29, 2016 / 9:04 pm

      I love a fellow nosey person. I just like to know what’s going on that’s all. Yes gossip is always seen as a little seedy and spiteful, which it can completely be, but when you’re just catching up about other people’s lives and surprises, throwing in the odd opinion and discussing it, then there’s no harm. Like you, I’m not interested in nasty comments

  12. March 30, 2016 / 8:42 am

    This made me laugh, I’m not a gossiper to be honest although I do think it’s normal to talk kindly about one another and express when others hurt us. I do find being honest where possible is best though. Clearly science is not on my side though! Ha x

    • firstooth
      April 4, 2016 / 9:09 am

      A good vent is definitely a must sometimes and there are some things we can only share with friends instead of our partners, because they just understand it more. I’m not interested in spiteful gossip I feel awkward when listening to it, but love to know what’s going on x

  13. March 30, 2016 / 10:01 am

    I am such a gossip fiend. As soon as I see a friend the first thing I say (unashamedly) is “got any goss”? I am unbelievably nosey, however, at the same time I can be trusted and can keep a secret…especially if explicitly asked to. Loved this post and I’m glad to know goss is good for you. I’m off to indulge in a spot of goss now…#bigpinklink

    • firstooth
      April 4, 2016 / 9:07 am

      Omg me too! Without gossip what would we talk about? My kids probably!

  14. April 1, 2016 / 6:41 am

    I use to think gossip was bad and my village is notorious for it but I once read (while studying for a degree so no trashy mag) that gossip is good as it controls behaviours in small communities as people generally don’t want to end up the latest topic on everyone’s lips. I love a good chin wag with my bestie, nothing wrong with putting the world to rights as long as you’re not telling porkies #sharethejoy

    • firstooth
      April 4, 2016 / 9:04 am

      Exactly!!

  15. April 1, 2016 / 3:56 pm

    I love a good old gossip! Doesn’t harm anyone does it! Great post
    Thank you for linking up to #justanotherlinky

    • firstooth
      April 4, 2016 / 9:04 am

      I think gossip is harmless the way we gossip is anyway

  16. April 1, 2016 / 6:41 pm

    I’m keeping the best gossip from my mum that my brother might be getting married! I’m sworn to secrecy but I tell mum everything but somehow the juicy tit bit has remained secret! Lol!

    • firstooth
      April 4, 2016 / 9:03 am

      Ooo that is juicy!! She will be over the moon when she hears

  17. April 1, 2016 / 7:59 pm

    All very true and we do all gossip, whether it’s malicious or not. Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky xx

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