Leave Me Alone This Saturday Morning

Do you remember those Saturday mornings, before children, you’d roll over in bed and stare at your partner, wondering if 10am was too early to get up? Because you were so tired from all that sleeping you did last night. No, me neither.

7am is considered a lay-in, and even then a child may have joined us.

These days I look forward to Saturdays because I have my right hand man with me. The children have someone else to beg for crisps/biscuits/milk and we get to spend quality time as a family. Even if that is nipping to Sainsburys to buy sausages and baguettes, and spending the rest of the day eating (my favourite past time).

Saturdays now, aren’t about the leisurely time away from work, the lay-ins, the big breakfast Sundays, and no-responsibility hangovers. Essentially, I’m still doing the same thing at the weekend, as I do all week. Get up, feed everyone, dress everyone, sit for hours wondering where the hell to take them, countdown until Mr F comes home. But for the most part, I do enjoy it.

I try to make the most of our Saturdays now. By that I mean showering in peace, eating breakfast, drinking hot (not lukewarm or cold) tea, speaking to an adult face to face and occasionally I get to organise the freezer, it truly is special.

My shower this Saturday morning took longer than it normally would. I spent about 5 minutes putting each sock on when I got dressed. I found every excuse I could to stay upstairs and be alone. I rarely get to enjoy my own company. In fact, I can’t remember the last time I was alone in the day. No child tugging at my leg with a potty full of wee or a baby asking for a cuddle purely to vomit down my shoulder.

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For some reason this Saturday I just needed some space. I needed time to myself, I would say in quiet but I could hear the rowdiness downstairs. It was nice to have daddy take the reigns with the children. I just sat upstairs listening to Mr Firstooth ask the toddler to not wipe peanut butter on the walls (did he really let him wander around with peanut butter on toast?), to know I wouldn’t become covered in porridge, I didn’t have to break up any baby vs toddler fights over a sofa cushion and then have the usual conversation that chocolate and fishfingers aren’t breakfast food and if you throw yourself on the floor in a fit of temper I will throw the bloody lot in the bin. I just sat upstairs not giving a shit.

Then he said it,

”What are you doing up there?”

I wanted to say ‘just fuck off, I’m relaxing’, but I felt that was a little extreme and a slightly unjustified answer so I used the guise of ”I’m just cleaning”, which he never questioned when he saw that not one single thing had been cleaned.

I enjoy my two crazy buggers every day, but everyday, all day, is a lot of time to spend with anyone, even your own children. I get lost in the mundane routines of our daily life and I forget that we need a break, I need me time, sometimes I need to be selfish and grab the chance for an hour alone with bit hands and hug it. A happy mum creates happy children afterall.

Today, we’ve not laughed as much as we did, in a long time. The day suffered no tantrums, no tutting or rolling my eyes. From start to finish we laughed and had fun, it was a day as easy as Supermum makes it look. Perhaps we could all do with a little break once in a while, even if it’s just to sit in peace for an hour.

 

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21 Comments

  1. November 28, 2015 / 10:53 pm

    Totally agree! Every day of the week I get up with our son apart from Saturday’s, it’s lovely to lay in bed and read some blogs. I too take time getting myself ready. I think it’s a mums prerogative #KCACOLS

    • LizzieG
      November 29, 2015 / 8:34 pm

      I agree!!

  2. November 28, 2015 / 11:12 pm

    I love the weekends for this. Taking time in the shower,putting on make-up, getting my husband to do his once a week putting the children to bed – means a bit of bliss for me. Definitely needed!! #KCACOLS

    • LizzieG
      November 29, 2015 / 8:33 pm

      Instead of dipping my head in my makeup bag and hoping for the best, I can actually put in a little effort. Those little snippets of peace are heaven x

  3. November 29, 2015 / 3:58 am

    I do this! When I come down my husband says to me- were you hiding? And I just say yes. Sometimes we need to hide!! #kcacols

  4. November 29, 2015 / 12:57 pm

    I love this! I am also guilty of taking forever to “get dressed” some days. There’s something relaxing about knowing someone else is downstairs watching the kiddos go crazy and I don’t have to! I’m visiting from FB but I think I’m going to check out this link up! ๐Ÿ˜€

    • LizzieG
      November 29, 2015 / 8:30 pm

      Thanks for visiting! Absence makes the heart grow fonder and we need a little space to just not have to worry and let someone else take control x

  5. November 29, 2015 / 5:22 pm

    Definitely have days like this! We have an arrangement for Sundays – I take the baby to my mum’s for dinner and stay until evening, complete with the general madness of dogs / relatives / the ‘oh, I wouldn’t have let her do *that*’ so I get to just stay in bed in the morning while he gets up with her. ๐Ÿ™‚ #KCACOLS

    • LizzieG
      November 29, 2015 / 8:48 pm

      Sunday morning must be your favourite! I feel your stress, we have chaotic days like that and I dread them! I big glass of prosecco takes the edge off

  6. November 29, 2015 / 9:05 pm

    True this. We all love each other dearly, but having your own space every so often is wonderful. It’s finding time and energy for it that’s the problem!

  7. cvnxena
    November 29, 2015 / 10:20 pm

    Well this is too true! – I don’t remember what it was like to lie in on a saturday – i’m pretty sure everyone is up at 6am right? anyone who’s not can bugger off and not rub it in my face please … thanks :p Great post!! #KCACOLS

    • firstooth
      November 30, 2015 / 7:28 pm

      I try not remember those layins. And how I used to be ‘so tired’ waking up at 9am, I hate pre-child me. Thank you x

    • firstooth
      November 30, 2015 / 7:29 pm

      We emerge feeling pampered and fresh (before the baby pees on us)

  8. November 30, 2015 / 8:57 am

    Ha! We have an unwritten rule that basically weekends are my excuse to slack off and more or less hand over the baton. Not as good as weekends used to be but better than a poke in the eye!!!! #FartGlitter

    • firstooth
      November 30, 2015 / 7:30 pm

      I’m glad it’s not just me! I become so lazy at the weekend I almost worry I make it look easy!

  9. November 30, 2015 / 11:16 am

    On Sunday my wife thought I’d fallen asleep as I took so long to have a shower. Actually I was waging war on my lady garden which had gotten a little wild. I did so enjoy the peace though.
    Thanks for linking up to #fartglitter x

    • firstooth
      November 30, 2015 / 7:31 pm

      Haha!! I’m yet to shave my legs after about a year, that’d be a good excuse for some extra time alone x

  10. Mommy's Little Princesses
    November 30, 2015 / 6:39 pm

    Lmao I love your excuse it was just fantastic! I could just imagine his face when he saw nothing had been done *he-he*. I agree we all could do with a break from time to time, after all a rest is as good as a holiday. xx #KCACOLS

  11. November 30, 2015 / 10:35 pm

    I completely agree with you!! I’m always wishing for Saturday’s to come quicker because I know my hubby will be there all day helping!! It is just the best feeling ever right? I think it is really important to have a break because dealing with your kids 24/7 every day of the week is just too crazy!! And I actually agree that that break it is even healthier and makes everything better as you would enjoy your children even more! Right now I’m desperate for a weekend off children but this won’t happen for a while! At least until Sienna is a little bit older!. I love this post Lizzie!! I really enjoyed reading it! ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS and I’m so happy to have you again this week!! ๐Ÿ™‚ xx

  12. December 8, 2015 / 3:06 pm

    You are so right! We all need time to ourselves sometimes otherwise do end up being wound up too tight and snapping! I would constantly lose track of what day we were on when I was on mat leave with my boys but definitely welcomed the weekends where I had hubby to help AND he would get up early on saturday with the children so I could have a lie-in.

    We still do this now I am back at work – we both get a day each to have a lie-in whilst the other gets up to tend to the boys.

    I have still not left the boys for one night away yet (my eldest is 5) but I hope we will organise something soon! #KCACOLS

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