Nap Time Confusion

I enjoy the respite that comes with a child napping (which stopped when our toddler hit two, two is far too old for naps apparently). Our daughter still needs a nap daily, whether she wants it or not, she certainly needs it. But lately it’s been one step forward two steps back. The less she sleeps in the day, the less she sleeps in the night, if at all. It’s been a week of banging my head against a wall, trying to figure out a happy compromise.

Recently, a month or so ago, she dropped from two blissful naps a day, to one. This one nap could sometimes be short, creating the unhappiest baby in the world come bedtime and also, somehow, WIDE AWAKE, but tired?

Should her naps stretch over a couple of hours, this also causes her to become really unhappy and wide awake at bedtime, yet, still tired?

How unfair is that.

A month ago our baby refused (screamed at the idea) any attempt of settling her for a second nap. Today she desperately needed two naps. Did I mention she’s been waking each night for between three to four hours? Funny I forgot to mention that, because that’s been the opening to every conversation I’ve had this past week. I wish I could decide to up my naps during the day, without the toddler banging a ship over my head if I were to drift off to sleep.

I’m a Google mum. Which means I Google 99% of advice that I need when it comes to children. I’ve since discovered that nobody actually has a clue how many naps a 1 year old needs, how many hours sleep they need a day and how long they are happy to be awake. Some say two naps, some say one nap of two-three hours. But this makes sense, since no child is the same, every child’s needs are different. Every child should be born with a bloody manual.

For example, a friend of mine has a son who naps for over two hours a day, my son doesn’t nap, and will NEVER go to sleep if he does. Her son is older than mine.

So for now I will let her take the lead on her naps and hope to God we all get some sleep soon. A rested mum makes a happy mum. A happy mum makes happy children. (Or something to that effect)


My search is the same as many other parents ‘when or how will my child sleep through the night’. What worked for my son, won’t necessarily work for my daughter (we’ve tried it, no such luck). There’s no quick fix or miracle, unfortunately. It’s more a case of surviving the terrible nights and appreciating the good. I’ve been running on fumes for years and have lived to tell the tale (even though I’m hanging by a thread). Although, if you have inside information on baby sleep, please send me the information on a post card.

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  1. The Anxious Dragon
    December 9, 2015 / 6:25 am

    I was so spoilt with my first child. He slept 12 hours at night at two 2hr naps a day till he was three. My second child made me pay for that, he slept ok at night, but once he was awake in the morning whatever time that was, that was it, NO more sleep was to be had unti
    bedtime that evening #TwinklyTuesday

  2. March 21, 2017 / 10:03 am

    My youngest just turned two and thinks he is to old to nap, thinks he doesn’t need it. However I know he needs it. if he doesn’t he will fall asleep while waiting for dinner and is super grumpy. I enjoy the two hours i get to eat and clean the house. His brother drooped all naps at two so I know it’s only a matter of time as he can stay awake past lunch time these days. We have moved naps from 11.30 to 12.30/1pm to accommodate that.

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