10 Things I Hate About Potty Training

Our littlest girl has started the wonderful adventure of potty training. It’s something I’ve been putting off for many months now but I can’t let her embark on this adventure alone. She needs me to give her a high-five each time she uses the potty, it beats having to clean up little puddles around the house because she whips her nappy off at every opportunity.

This will be the last time I have to potty train a child. With our son I found it relatively easy, and our daughter has also been very easy to adapt, but there are still things I really dislike about potty training. Things that didn’t seem to bother me the first time, but now there’s a second child to maneuver towards the toilet.

The First Outing

The first time I took our daughter out in knickers instead of a nappy, I had sweat dripping down my back. I kept the journey simple by visiting Tesco and kept an eye on the bottom of the trolley the entire time. I was breathy, sweaty and wide eyed. That is my ‘first time without a nappy’ look.

I’d sat her in the basket of the trolley too, so if she did have an accident it would look a little like a waterfall through those small metal squares. The first outing is always a stressful one.

There’s so Much Wee

When there are two children using the toilet and potty, I feel like all I end up doing is staring at pee, all day. Once one child has finished using the potty, the other wants to use the toilet. It makes me realise how often they each wee, which is a lot.

The day I Ditched Nappies…

Was the day after I’d stocked up on nappy supplies for the entire year.

Just Like a Puppy

My little ones can be doing extremely well with their potty training, but the second they get excited it’s as if they forget the sensation to pee. And instead pee down themselves, or on the lap of the person they’re sitting on. It’s usually the only day we leave without a spare outfit too, just to make things a little more interesting.

Not for Customer use

If you are able to coax your child into a toilet, that achievement is short-lived whilst you’re shopping. Not supermarket shopping where you can ditch your trolley and dash into the safety of the customer toilets, but normal shopping in places where they don’t sell clothes next to the vegetable aisle and cushions, so many cushions.

When they need a wee, they need a wee. There’s no holding it in while you locate the stench of a public toilet, sometimes the only option is to ask, or beg, a sales assistant whether you can take your sweet little darling into their staff toilets urgently. As they move their eyes from your gaze down to your child, who has reached decibels which can be heard outside the shop whilst holding themselves (to hold the wee in, I imagine) they then apologize and say their toilets aren’t for customer use. All you can do is wish death on the sales assistant, abandon the basket of trinkets for your home and leave to find a suitable place to urinate.

We once had an incident in IKEA (which you can read about here) and another incident in the lift of TK Maxx, after being refused the use of their toilets, we just didn’t make it out of the shop in time before our little left his own little puddle in there.

The Endless Questions

We’re constantly asking whether they need a wee. It’s something I don’t mind doing, but every child has their own dance, a dance that tells their parents that they need a wee. So when the question is put to our child ‘do you need a wee?’, it sends panic through my body when they answer ‘no’. What do they mean ‘no’? They’re doing The Dance!

The Accidents

It’s inevitable that there’ll be accidents along the road. It’s also guaranteed that the only accidents will be when we’re without a spare change of clothes. This leaves us questioning our decisions quite harshly, as we carry a sodden pair of trousers in one hand and a half dressed child in the other.

One accident in particular is quite frustrating, it’s the one that’s right next to the potty. The potty was right there, but maybe we didn’t question them enough, or perhaps they knew we were all out of spare clothing.

The Lies and Panic

Our son has learnt how to make us do an emergency stop in the middle of a road. By simply declaring he needs a wee. Then once stopped he’ll laugh and we’ll continue our journey. The problem with this is, we can’t call his bluff, because the one time we do, he’ll probably have an accident. And we’ll be all out of spare clothes, again.

Public Toilets and Peeing in Public

I’m going to admit it, I have an aversion to public toilets. I can’t use them unless I’m on the verge of having an accident myself. My son also has the same aversion, but for different reasons, he’s afraid of the hand drier. This means he’s learnt to pee in bushes and such outside. But this has also lead him to pee in bushes and such in our garden, our friends garden and anytime he’s outdoors. It’s a hard habit to break.

I’m not sure how our daughter will take to it all. I don’t like the thought of her using public toilets, so it may mean carrying our potty with us.

The Crusty Potty

If you don’t clean the potty out each time it’s used. It’ll become crusty. Something we learnt with our portable potty, after it had festeredย in the boot of the car. I don’t recommend it.

Dry in the Night

This we’re yet to crack. We’ve been woken almost every night with a soaking wet child and bed to attend to. It seems like an impossible mission to reach the goal everyone else sails to with ease. Our friends’ little girl simply decided one day she didn’t want to wear nappies in the night anymore. Our son says the same, but experience tells us that he doesn’t really mean it.

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  1. https://notjustphoebe.wordpress.com
    October 24, 2016 / 2:24 pm

    I haven’t started yet but its coming up and not looking forward to this phase!!! thanks for sharing and hope its still going well plus good tips of the crusty potty!!! yikes #MarvMondays

  2. Hayley Mclean
    October 24, 2016 / 3:27 pm

    Ha! Yeah…Im with you…I hate all of those things too!! I had so many ideals about it before I did it…I wasnt going to use a potty, or pull ups…Ha! Real life didnt quite work out that way! #MarvMondays

  3. Caroline (Becoming a SAHM)
    October 24, 2016 / 8:05 pm

    Ah I feel you. With Monkey we ha one failed attempt to potty train and didn’t Tey again til he was 3 and honestly that time it was a doddle. He is not one to rush or be rushed into anything. He wasn’t dry at nights till he was 4, literally the day he turned 4. We’d tried all sorts before that but it was like he decided he was a big boy (that’s what he said). There’s been a few accidents but very rarely thankfully. LM on the other hand is going to be much earlier I know it though I have mixed feelings about it. I’ll be glad to be rid of nappies but I’m not looking forward to all of the above happening!

  4. Alana - Burnished Chaos
    October 24, 2016 / 8:10 pm

    I can relate to a lot of these from my first but to be honest we were really lucky with him and only had a few accidents. Our youngest is due to start soon and I have an awful feeling she will be a whole lot harder and I am seriously dreading it. We already use a potty whenever we change her nappy or before she goes in the bath and she will always ask to use it if she needs a poo, but a lot of the time she is adamant she doesn’t need a see only to then go ahead and do one in the bath 30 seconds later!
    #MarvMondays

  5. Angela Watling
    October 25, 2016 / 9:19 am

    Sounds like you’ve been really strong through such a long-running ordeal! I’m really not looking forward to potty training. I have to confess that I hadn’t even given thought to the first outings without nappies…. Hmmm…. The fun things parents get to do huh?! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Thanks for sharing your experiences. It’s useful to learn from others ahead of the inevitable! #MarvMondays

  6. The Tale of Mummyhood
    October 26, 2016 / 6:48 am

    My eldest is just starting to show signs of getting ready to potty train. I must admit I’m a little nervous about it!

    #BestandWorst

  7. http://ourrachblogs.com
    October 26, 2016 / 7:35 am

    This is brilliant! I’ve made so many ill fated attempts with the potty training over the last few months, so this resonates with me a lot. #bestandworst

  8. Sarah Howe @runjumpscrap
    October 26, 2016 / 3:31 pm

    Oh man this sounds hard! I hate to say it (please hit me) my daughter never really had many accidents and just went dry after our holiday when she quit the milk. However, I now have another daughter and am not expecting any ease!! Bless you. i can’t believe how rude the shop assistants are! Hope it comes soon ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for sharing with #bestandworst x

  9. Jackie
    October 27, 2016 / 10:58 am

    I’m not looking forward to this stage ;-( Planning to cling to the nappies as long as possible hahaha. The few times I’ve had leaking nappies were enough for me. I’ve never done it before so I think I need to get over the psychological barrier first and then it might be easier. Thanks for sharing a realistic view of what to expect #bestandworst

  10. kristin mccarthy
    October 27, 2016 / 7:44 pm

    I am potty training twins as wel speak AND i finally scored beautiful new couches.

    Haterville…population ME

    #fridayfrolics

  11. Catherine Radley
    October 27, 2016 / 9:17 pm

    Nooo I didn’t want to read this, I haven’t started potty training yet and now I am terrified! I thought it would be a breeze haha! I love this though, at least I will be able to think of you when Little R has wee’d everywhere! #frodayfrolics

  12. Emma
    October 28, 2016 / 8:56 am

    Yes! That first trip out with nappies is like some endurance test to who is going to crack first. Are you going to whip out a nappy or carry on? For the first 6 months of being potty trained Youngest would poo in her knickers everytime she went down a slide. I would always forget this fact until it was too late! #FridayFrolics

  13. Claire - Life, Love and Dirty Dishes
    October 28, 2016 / 9:37 am

    Hand driers are the bane of my life. The big one still hates them. He also hates peeing alfresco. The combination of these two things means he has learnt to hold his bladder for a really long time! Thanks for linking up to #FridayFrolics

  14. My Petit Canard
    October 29, 2016 / 11:30 pm

    Our little one has an adversion to the hand drier in the toilets too. She literally freaks out when they start. It makes for interesting toilet visits to say the least. We had a relatively easy time with potty training, but we did have our fair share of accidents too. Im hoping that the second time round is similar, but I know thats not how it works with parenting, ha ha! Love the new logo by the way ๐Ÿ˜‰ Thanks for sharing this on #MarvMondays. Emily

  15. Ellamentalmama
    October 30, 2016 / 1:42 pm

    I kept putting it off cause of all the challenges. Thankfully we seem to have come.out the other side not too scarred! #KCACOLS

  16. Laura - dear bear and beany
    October 30, 2016 / 3:12 pm

    Reading this has brought it all back from potty training my eldest daughter and we are not far off starting with my youngest daughter. I honestly don’t think it’s going to be as easy this time! X #KCACOLS

  17. Peachy and her Mommy
    October 30, 2016 / 4:22 pm

    On the one hand, I can’t wait to not have to deal with diapers anymore. On the other hand, potty training seems really messy and inconvenient during outings. #KCACOLS

  18. Rachel Bustin
    October 30, 2016 / 4:27 pm

    oh I have so much to look forward too! My little girl is only 9 months old. So don’t have a clue yet about potty training! xx
    Thanks for linking up at #KCACOLS.
    Hope you join up again next Sunday.

  19. Pen
    October 31, 2016 / 8:39 am

    Oh Jesus. Cygnet is just 2. I am dreading potty training and wondering how long I can put it off for. A year? #KCACOLS

  20. http://www.crummymummy.co.uk
    October 31, 2016 / 2:07 pm

    We’ve got all this to come with Little B soon but they say not to do it 6 months either side of a new baby so we’re going to wait a while! #bestandworst

  21. five little doves
    October 31, 2016 / 9:11 pm

    All of these – yes!! Dry in the night…we are still to crack this with my three year old, and to be honest, even my four year old some nights!!! I live in hope with the two year old! #fridayfrolics

  22. Heledd @ yummyblogger
    October 31, 2016 / 10:04 pm

    Brilliant post, made me laugh! We’ve just potty trained our eldest son and it’s gone really well… apart from poo’s. They seem to be messing with his mind so he’s had lots of poo-y accidents :/ another thing to hate!!
    #kcacols

  23. Becky @ Educating Roversi
    October 31, 2016 / 10:10 pm

    Oh this post fills me with dread! We’ve kind of started…but it officially. I’m in denial. When the nappy is off he goes to the loo. When it’s on, he isn’t bothered about the loo. I’ve bought little Gruffalo pants but we’re yet to brace them. I’m thinking Xmas holidays to “officially” attack it. #KCACOLS

  24. Devon Mama
    October 31, 2016 / 10:39 pm

    Oh god. I’m dreading this stage so so much. It’s bad enough hearing the poo explosion noise… let alone dealing with that and no nappy to catch it! #kcacols

  25. Laura Clark
    November 2, 2016 / 7:29 am

    Potty training can be so stressful ๐Ÿ™ What really helped us was having one of those Potette fold up travel pots with us EVERYWHERE. Made me feel a lot less stressed about finding a loo at very short notice lol! x #bestandworst

  26. Jade @ Captured By Jade
    November 2, 2016 / 2:20 pm

    I can relate to all of these – especially the first no nappy outing, and ditching the nappies just after you stocked up! Whilst my son is pretty much potty trained in the daytime, we have yet to crack the night time and he uses a pull up for bed. I really quite nervous about that transition! Such an honest and relatable post!

  27. Now I am mum
    November 2, 2016 / 5:52 pm

    A whole adventure in itself, we’re not at that stage yet but I can just imagine the fun… poo explosions always happen on the rare occasions I venture out thinking “I’m sure we don’t need a change of clothes, she’s been once already today…” live and learn! #kcacols

  28. Emma Plus Three
    November 2, 2016 / 10:07 pm

    Oh god I hated potty training so much! I’m so glad I don’t have to do it again x #KCACOLS

  29. Silly Mummy
    November 6, 2016 / 8:19 pm

    I hate potty training! & I do spend all my time asking if wees are needed now!

    Thanks so much for joining us on #FridayFrolics. Apologies for my lateness – I have had moving chaos to contend with.

  30. Emma me and b make tea
    November 7, 2016 / 1:28 pm

    aww feel your pain. we are getting there now but its taken a while. I waited ill he was three to really start and wees are fairly good tbh. if he needs a wee in a shop and there is no loo, we go outside to water the tyres on mummy’s car ๐Ÿ˜‰ and in the car, we used puppy training pads (essentially a huge nappy pad) and these are ideal ๐Ÿ™‚

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