I’ve recently had to accept that our daughter is no longer a baby. She’s now a fully fledged toddler. I’m not sure what the characteristics are for a toddler, but she’s been walking for months (9 months – I know!), she’s this side of 1 and she throws herself around without fear, like a toddler? She’s known as the destructive one, she won’t walk round it, she’ll always walk through it.
I’ve tried to hold on to her babyness for as long as possible. The chances of us having another baby are slim to none, so calling her a baby, perhaps longer than needed, made me feel comfortable with her being our final child. Doesn’t it also sound a little easier, than saying you’re an exhausted (but proud) owner of TWO Toddlers.
I’d like to say I will miss having a baby, but I’d be lieing. I won’t miss the bottle/breast feeds, the early starts and late finishes, the regular night feeds, the difficulty doing ANYTHING AT ALL. It’s no easier now with toddlers, in fact, some days I cry because I find it all near impossible. But the rewards you get from Children growing up are the chats you have, about silly things like birds in trees, the cuddles that they mean, the hilarious things they say and do and if you’re a blogger, that tantrum in the shop may have been mortifying, but makes for a brilliant blog post right? It may still be a ball ache to leave the house (minus the actual owning of balls) but they’re a little more cooperative now and it was good riddance to that first stage, car seat faff. I hated that carseat.
With a toddler it’s a relief when they can say what they need, you don’t have to guess why they’re crying, sometimes just because. You can reason with them. Sometimes. Toddlers are animated with their wants and needs and sometimes, even when they receive what they asked for, they don’t actually want it and they’re furious that they’ve even been given it – let the tantrums commence.
For me, I’m happy that they’re growing up, I’m at peace with leaving the baby stage behind. Of course I will miss those cuddles, that cuteness and babies are a different kind of hard work (but they can be sat safely in a bouncer while you watch Wendy Williams).
Two toddlers makes for a constant flow of ‘something to do’. Something to clean up, somewhere to go, someone to feed, someone to play with, someone’s bum to wipe. Outings are a little more hands on, one holding your hand while the other tries to break free from the stroller, it’s not easy and it makes me sweat far too much. There’s little or no ‘down time’ and I crave respite from it all quite often, but this is our life now and we do really enjoy it. Two Toddlers and no more babies, it’s a perfect situation to be in (just rather frustrating and emotional at times, they’ll forever be my babies).
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